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October 2009 
Have you successfully changed something about yourself?
Posted on Aug 5th, 2009
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Sylvia
Sylvia
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for August 04, 2009:
My parents, particularly my mother, were toxically sarcastic. I have trained myself to be much gentler in my humor for the most part. When I am cuttingly sarcastic, that can be a clue that I am tired, angry and/or need to check in emotionally to see what's leading me to be defensive or biting.
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I would have really liked your parents!
Hi, Denim - the cutting sarcasm? As a child I found it extremely difficult to have directed towards me - which is why I put quite a bit of energy into cultivating a different style of humor. As an adult - sometimes it's fun - but I usually am keenly aware of my own commitment to compassion (nonviolence) of fist, tongue and heart.
peace and blessings -
Sylvia
So true Sylvia…when sarcasm is directed at one in a toxic manner it certainly can sting. I often feel it as condescending or patronizing, overall it can be down right rude. However, I have also experienced this form of humor in what I believe to be a healthy, good natured poke and tease with no harm done.
It is double edged perhaps and I have seen both sides of it in play with all types of results. For me…it also depends on my mood…when I am just simply in a grumpy enough state…any form of teasing, well natured or not…can sting.
I respect your changes you have made, in fact it is rather self reflective and honest. I admire that sincerely and your commitment to such compassion of change.