How did you meet your partner?

In my mid-thirties - I had a brief, sweet and fun fling with someone I met online.  I then pretty much ducked the issue of romance for several years - though I hung out in similar places online.


The numbers of people coming to those places were falling drastically, and I was considering leaving myself, when one day this awful pun cracking, spiritually exploring big-hearted lawyer/real estate dealer from California paged me - and we connected quickly on a deep level.  He was stunned and captivated that I could keep up with and even outdistance him in several areas - including humor, politics (of which he was an almost incurable junky) and spiritual exploration.


It took less than 2 weeks after that first chat for us to start talking on the phone - a couple weeks after that to start exploring romantic involvement, and a couple weeks after that for him to come visit for the first time.  One of his most endearing and irritating characteristics was rampant ADD - if he thought about something - he often did it.  My style of reflecting and praying through decisions was both a good off-set to his impulsiveness - and the differences could drive each of us nuts [wry grin].  The year + that we were involved was rich, wonderful, full of caring and growth.  I've written more about that in various blogs tagged with Brad. 

Though our relationship had basically broken up - we retained a close connection until his death the end of June this year.  Dealing with my feelings continues to be rich, challenging, full of growth and care and I often sense his presence with me.  A big part of the Bah Humbug attack I had in the early hours of Christmas morning that led me to retreat to my house rather than spending the day with beloved friends was another especially deep and sharp layer of grief.  Last year he and I spent Christmas with those same friends - and a wonderful though short night together in the hotel where he'd stayed the weekend we met in person.

Sometimes being single is harder now - and yet, in the midst of the challenges and grief, as sharp as it can be - the joy and the care we shared will probably make me more likely to seek another relationship when the time is right.  His presence in my life was and is a gift.


peace and blessings -


Sylvia