How do you react to violence?
Posted on Oct 2nd, 2008
by
Sylvia
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for October 02, 2008:
As a person who is living in the aftermath of emotional and verbal slicing and shredding and other abuse as a child - my initial response to raised voices, hostility and agression tends to be to freeze and retreat. I am continuing to work toward being a peaceful presence in myself in such situations - and to mediate as opportunities arise. One of the most important parts of this work is dealing with anger and dark places in myself and others. I also seek to overturn and/or reform systems and institutions that oppress and do violence.
I work deeply toward breaking silence around abuse, finding creative and Spirit affirming ways to live in the aftermath - and help other people confront violence and heal. I have joyfully participated in a number of national actions with Soulforce and much of my faith life is built in and on seeking peace with justice through the Baptist Peace Fellowship and other organizations.
love and blessings -
Sylvia
After some reflection - I decided to share the following poem:
“You’re awesome!” chirped the little sprite with the ashen curls and the pert face.
Such matter of fact affirmation -
Evoking a torrent of tears testifying to so many years and so many little ones inside so savaged and so determined to forge ahead in the face of such unrelenting un-ease.
Taunting night terrors, consuming the days with aching body resistance -
Still fighting the horrific invasions that marauded toddlerhood decades ago.
What is peace? A moment’s relief/release from the hamster wheel of consequences for actions not my/our own?
A serene space inside myself/ourselves?
The glowing, awe-full Presence of the Divine feminine? Elusive, energizing, mighty, comforting?
I work deeply toward breaking silence around abuse, finding creative and Spirit affirming ways to live in the aftermath - and help other people confront violence and heal. I have joyfully participated in a number of national actions with Soulforce and much of my faith life is built in and on seeking peace with justice through the Baptist Peace Fellowship and other organizations.
love and blessings -
Sylvia
After some reflection - I decided to share the following poem:
“You’re awesome!” chirped the little sprite with the ashen curls and the pert face.
Such matter of fact affirmation -
Evoking a torrent of tears testifying to so many years and so many little ones inside so savaged and so determined to forge ahead in the face of such unrelenting un-ease.
Taunting night terrors, consuming the days with aching body resistance -
Still fighting the horrific invasions that marauded toddlerhood decades ago.
What is peace? A moment’s relief/release from the hamster wheel of consequences for actions not my/our own?
A serene space inside myself/ourselves?
The glowing, awe-full Presence of the Divine feminine? Elusive, energizing, mighty, comforting?
Tagged with: QaR, peace, violence, intolerance, abuse, recovery, resilience, healing, Divine Feminine

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Sylvia,
As you know, many children are suffering currently with abuse. I don't know if you have ever heard of Elina Gil, she is a seasoned psychotherapist I learned from through her books and workshops. I highly recommend her work. My work with child abuse is extensive. Sad to say there is a great need in this area.
I am pleased to read in your poem the strength, courage, healing, acceptance and self forgiveness which emerges with grace in love after feelings of tremendous helplessness.
Beautiful Poem Sylvia
Love you
LeAnn
LeAnn - *thank you* for the work you do. <sitting quietly with you, love flowing for the children>. I worked in a domestic violence center for a couple years - the children's trauma was heartwrenching.
I visited Dr. Eliana Gil's web page - and was intrigued - especially with the non-verbal methods she uses. I carefully bookmarked and tagged it for further reading - following the mantra of so many of my friends to “be good to myself!” and “take it easy!” <soft smile>.
love and blessings -
Sylvia
Yes, Eliana uses sand tray and art therapy modalities.
This work is very important.
I pray for a world in which it is not longer needed.
Children's trauma is “heartwrenching” and being present with these children with Divine Love is rewarding work.
Domestic violence work is so important to the entire family unit. Thank you for allowing this kind of work in your life.
Love and Blessings to you Sylvia
Thank you, Sylvia
for always sharing willingly
for giving voice where too many remain silent
much love to you
thank you, sylvia, you are walking courageously on this path, and as you know, you are not alone.
your piece is beautiful as is your introduction and what you have chosen to make and do of great trauma and injustice. its the gold in the shadows…
much peace to you,
mary
Hi, LeAnn and Anna - thank you for your love, support, and comments.
Sharing Divine Love with traumatized children is awesome, LeAnn.
I looked into Dr. Eliana’s website a little further - and especially liked that the institute she works with does play therapy with families - adults and kids together.
love and blessings
Sylvia
Hi, Mary - thank you for walking your path, and sharing mine with me.
Much peace to you, too
Sylvia